Thursday, June 13, 2013

A Gentle(wo)man's Game


Golf. Most would refer to it as a gentleman's game. However, I don't consider myself to be like most people. During my years of competitive golf I have witnessed so many petite, bubbly, kindhearted women who have a passion for the game. Don't let their exterior be misleading. These women, my friends, would rob the average male golfer of their money and their pride. Gently, of course. As I've eased out of playing competitively over the past three years, I've found that my game has worsened while my collegiate bound teammates and friends continue to break their own personal records. Despite my lack of practice lately, the passion for the game remains.

But you see the reason I love the sport is deeper than the obvious objective of smacking a tiny white ball into a round hole. By nature and intent, golf teaches elements of character. Honesty, integrity, perseverance, self-discipline, humility, respect, and courtesy. Golf, known as being a mental game, has taught me perspective above all. The way I play golf is very similar to the way I play the game of life. Some days I feel like a professional and other days I'm back to learning the fundamentals.

Weather Conditions
In East Tennessee the weather is known for being unpredictable. Just when I think I'm prepared and dressed appropriately for a round of golf, the once fluffy marshmallow cloud suddenly appears grey and sprinkles of water begin to drop. As a result I've learned that you have to persevere, be flexible, willing to adjust your game plan based on the condition of the course. Life shares this same unpredictability. I like to think that stormy seasons are placed in our life to subtly lead us to discover God's game plan. As a player of the game, we must be willing to trust and be redirected.

Whiffing
This word is often used to describe a player who swings and misses by a considerably large margin. In a golfers dictionary, whiffing would be defined as swinging the golf club without making contact with the ball. As a result you've wasted a stroke and have not advanced the ball any closer to the hole. Luckily it has been many years since I've embarrassingly whiffed while playing golf however, in life there are several moments where I miss the target. The intentions of my heart mean well, but many times I find myself focused on the wrong goal. As a result I am weary and stationary. I misuse my efforts by taking a swing at events and agendas that don't offer any advancement for His Kingdom. Swing and a miss. Sound familiar? This leads me to the next topic.

Forgiving Yourself
Golf is weird compared to other sports. Bear with me as I explain a few concepts for those who aren't very familiar. The objective is to play a round of golf and finish with the lowest score. A "round of golf" consists of playing 18 consecutive holes and the number of strokes he or she must take to make the little white ball roll into the hole determines a player’s score. Boring, right??? 
My point is this. During the round, mistakes are going to happen. You may hit the ball into the sand trap, out of bounds, into a hazard, or lose sight of the ball all together. When this happens a feeling of frustration, regret, and disappointment swell within. However, in the midst of these emotions we must remind ourselves that there is still more golf to be played and opportunities to do well in the future. A terrible hole doesn't immediately result in a terrible round. Life is no different. We all make mistakes, but the way we react to our mistakes will impact our future. In order to succeed in golf and in life, I believe it's required that we have a positive attitude and optimistic outlook. Forgive yourself and move on to the next hole.

Perhaps you don't dedicate your time golfing, but whenever people are passionate about something one becomes full of joy and inspired when they are able to participate, contribute, and be involved with an activity that they love. I believe our personal interests aren't given to us by chance. They are sweetly given as gifts...so go play! 


jpr

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