The Art of Conversation

Everyone is uniquely designed.

Some folks are shy and reserved while others are fearless and daring. As for me? I find myself in the middle of these extremes. I have always found pleasure in meeting new people, speaking to others, asking questions, and listening to views that are different than my own. Learning about others is exciting and helps me take a mental audit of my own beliefs and way of thinking. 

 Conversation for it's own sake exists for two reasons: To trade ideas and for companionship. Whether you're in a business, religious, school, or home setting the purpose of discussion falls into one of these two categories.

Technology impacts my life dramatically. This comes as no surprise to you. I would be lost without my smart phone. Completely lost.

#firstworldproblems

Laptops and smart phones enable a large chunk of our interaction with others to be done through text messages, emails, social media, or blogs. As a result we express ourselves to others both directly and indirectly depending on the avenue of communication. This blog is a perfect example of the latter. This blog is a place to share my thoughts and ideas; however it only fulfills half of the purpose of conversation. It is important to note the difference between communications vs. conversation. It is possible to communicate without engaging in conversation. Think about it.

 As we continue to develop sleeker technology I fear that gains in virtual communication are putting a damper in the ability of younger generations (like mine) to effectively converse. With the absence of verbal communication, the art of conversation is lost.

Wouldn't that be a shame?

Thinking over my past experiences, conversations have defined all my relationships by building trust and adding depth and intimacy. Whether it's your best friend, student, boyfriend, husband, co-worker, or a complete stranger, initiating conversation is the best way to grow closer in companionship. I think we would all agree that relationships make life worth-while.

 If you don't know where to begin, these simple rules are likely to lead to great conversation:

· Ask questions so the other person can speak about himself or herself

· Comment on a general interest topic

· LISTEN

· Forget yourself

· Be respectful when voicing disagreement

· Share stories and experiences

· Know when the conversation has ended

Now, I plan to turn off my computer for the day. Let’s make time to invest in others. Enjoy the sunshine and become masters in the art of conversation! Ready. Set. Go.

jpr